Let's just talk (no drama please)

Good evening, lovely people of the Cantina! What's going on tonight?

 

Work and home.

 

Work and home

 

You forgot the fullstop.

 

what stop ?

 

You were copying me... so copy properly!

 

I'm only here because a wonderful philosophy/religion thread got locked and I have no other way to express just how much the original post touched me (outside of a pm, which I feel would be too personal). So I really need to say this:

@sade , your post made me accept Jesus as my Lord and Savior. Bless you brother! I pray the Holy Spirit touches your heart so you too can bask in God's glory together with his other children. We'll be waiting for you.

 

I take it that this is just random chit-chat with no real direction so long as folks remain respectful and drama-free? If so...

What do you folks do for stress relief and/or anger release? See, I am a yeller. HORRIBLE habit that I picked up from my parents. We were never abused, but my parents yelled a lot when I was a knucklehead, so that is what I learned. It is a constant battle for me to not do it to my kids. I do it sometimes, but catch myself and have to simmer down because I am big and menacing and it looks like I wanna whoop everyone's arse and that is not the goal.

I have found for me that physical exertion seems to expel that mess. I get the kettlebell and do swings, goblet squats and work it out. Not to fatigue, but just getting the blood flowing through the body seems to alleviate a lot of useless anger.

What do you folks do?

 

...hmm... Well, Me ? I got a Long fuse... probably longer than should be. Yep, Way Too Long.
I tend ta put with with more than I ought'a.

Not so much with my daughters, that gets handled Purdy quick an' with out bein' mean. They know when I say're ask, I mean it. Ain't Never been but once each I ever had'ta lay a hand to a bottom, So I done somethin' right, there.

Not much else I can think of...probably don't help that I'm a smoker...so there's that.

 

A yeller.
Do you mean you feel the anger come into you, increase inside, you are conscious of it, but you cannot stop it. And it explodes. Is it that?
How do you fell after "the yell" ? Do you fell relieved, "I've done the right thing" ? Or do you feel shameful?

I had the same. We surely are not the same persons.
I couldn't keep my calm in front of a banal thing : a nail that does not want to sink, a door that does not want to open... a post on the Cantina I cannot edit... only things and facts, I do not loose my self-control in front of persons (because I probably know inside me, the person will understand if I get angry and angry - az thing basically do not understand).

I spoke to a doctor. He told me about an "uncontrollable irritability". That was totally me.
He tried to calm me down, mainly, by giving me a better sleep. That is what I advise you : get a better sleep.
PLEASE DON'T USE SLEEPING PILLS - PLEASE DON'T.
For my part I tried homeopathy : L72, I don't know if it is sold in your country. sixty drops just before shutting down the light, thirty drops when I wake up.
I REPEAT : I DON'T MEAN SLEEPING PILLS, don't approach that, it's a drug, you'll never quit them !!!!! They're like a cigarette, please never start this sh%%%%t
That's why I have preferred homeopathy.

Perhaps go to a homeopathic doctor and speak with him about your sleeping and how to improve it. No sleepig pills.
As said RuralFarmBoy, tobacco is not an allied. I use to smoke, me too..

Good luck.

 

It's not an uncontrollable anger or instant rage, it is just the nasty way with which I react sometimes. 75% of the time I am good to go, then there are the odd times that I blow my lid and yell, and annihilate all of the other times that I didn't yell lol. I don't yell mean or hurtful things, it's just me dropping angry orders or ultimatums. I do feel absolute shame if I go off like that because while I am not hitting anyone or saying hurtful things, the intimidation is abusive in it's own right and I hate it.

As for drugs, I do as very little as possible of them. I take one for minor hypertension one a small one to help regulate blood sugar. I don't smoke and rarely drink. My going wild is two beers in a night once every 6 months. I hate opioids and will only take them if it is an absolute emergency, so my pain-killer of choice is Aleve, but since that is pricey, I run with ibuprofen. When I am done with school and get to bringing in more income, I plan to learn to feed my ailments proper with good nutrition and natural things.

 

what I told you @TheBBP is L 72 : http://www.lehning.com/fr/solutions/vitalite/produit/l72 the website is french
it's that:

It's said: "L72 minor sleep disturbances"
It's no drug, not an opioid and not a benzodiazepine - that's why I dare to introduce it.
It does not need - here in France - a doctor's advice, i mean: it is freely sold (ibuprofene and Aleve are not).
There's no addiction ("sans accoutumance" in french) you can quit it whenever you want.

I hope having a better sleep will help you keep your control.

 

I have zero sleep issues unless there isn't a fan lol. I can pretty much fall asleep anytime, anywhere if I wanna.

 

....that's You'n Me Both, Brother.
Am. CW Re-enactin' taught me that..

 

What's going on, Cantina patrons?

 

I am about to head out the door to get my kids. I always like it when I get to bring them home every day. My oldest boy has youth group at church this evening so dinner is just gonna be quesadillas and/or burritos. Something quick.

What's shakin' on your end?

 

Seriously I need to speak to someone or something. Not sure what. Also I have a hater on my tail, I may have to go back to hiding mode. Can't be bothered with his mind games. Am not been pressured in to childish games from certain individuals. I just want a cove, I think Star Wars is ruining my life. Its drowning me, can't turn to alcohol and my stomach hurts and can't sleep.

At least I have my Rey pop dolls, they make me happy.

 

Not sure how much wisdom or advice that I can impart, but my inbox is open if you wanna get something off of your chest.

 

I know how you feel. What's a pop doll? ?

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you're a very friendly person, it's refreshing and i like that.

 

My best friend in the past month or so is Melatonin. You'll sleep good. Just don't drink caffeine around the time you take it or you'll stay up until 2-4am.