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The Cantina Mental Health Thread

Discussion in 'Random Discussion' started by Luuke22, Jul 29, 2015.

  1. Luuke22

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    I've known a couple people that were victims of the Baker Act down in FL, and it seems like once you're on their radar you never really get off of it. I'm sorry to hear of your troubles, they sound like pretty horrible experiences.

    The only advice I'd have is to maybe be as compliant as possible the next time this happens to you; if you are mistreated or abused, any report you might want to file against those pertinent parties would be looked at in a more favorable light if were being compliant. Obviously you always have the right to defend yourself if someone in authority is abusing their power against you, but just try to remain calm and deal with the situation afterward. Have you contacted your Congressperson or filed complaints against these people? If you can prove real abuse, you'd likely have a case for suing them as well.
     
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    Ive allowed some one to beat me up beacause of my history they blamed me,it was in a orwellian survalnce zone,
     
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    Do you have access to a medical professional or a counselor? I would recommend seeing someone in order to talk through these experiences. Seeing someone does not mean you have to take anti depressants. I'm not super familiar with the nuances of Florida law, but I can say with utmost certainty that if you choose to go to therapy, whether or not you take medication is entirely your decision.
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    It really sounds like you should look into some kind of legal counsel or counselor of some sort, someone that can come to your aid if and when the Baker Act is used against you.
     
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    Well I was beat up under "A surveild zoned" the cops recolonized me from the baker act and did believe me.he did not beat me up he hit me afew times i did not hit not him the jedi way though the 5 times he punched me i told him he hits like a PU-Sway to get around language filter
     
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    I don't think I've ever heard of a good story involving the Baker Act; I would urge you to look into any class-action suits against it or any movement trying to get it repealed. Meanwhile, I reiterate that I think having either a legal counsel or some type of guardian that you can call if you're put in another situation like that would be the best thing you can do. Does you town/county offer any kind of mental health services other than the Baker Act? Like an out-patient therapy office? Talking to someone doesn't mean you're crazy, it just means you need someone to talk to and possibly to help you through these kinds of situations.
     
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    Luuke i need nothing of these outpationt groups,My mother was abusives clearly jealous of girlfriends now i take care of 84 year old grandma give me your phone number edit sorry if un articulate im a meat head
     
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    I'm not talking about groups, I'm talking about one-on-one sessions with a counselor. Like I said, I'm not entirely familiar with FL so something like that may not even be offered where you live, but it was something that helped me; it's not like seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist, it's just meeting with someone who wants to help you talk through things.

    I'm not super comfortable giving out my phone number, unfortunately. You're more than welcome to Direct Message me if you'd like to continue to talk; I might be able to help you locate some of the services I'm talking about, or just talk if that's what you prefer.
     
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    bah brother i beat my depression with deadlifts squats and bench much like luke in empire with handstands ill give you my number
     
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    It's really not about depression; that's great that you found a way to deal with yours, exercise is a very effective method. I only encourage you to make a connection with a counselor or someone of the like so that if you run into trouble with the law again, you have someone local you can call to act on your behalf. Plus, depression or no, it never hurts to talk through experiences like what you've described.

    I'd be okay with exchanging numbers, but let's do it in a DM. Neither of us needs our personal contact info to be public ;).
     
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    Man, all I can say is that Luuke hit the nail on the head.

    Your strength and perseverance, your determination for your daughter, your commitment.. You're definitely a hero, my friend. You don't have to be perfect, or always be emotionally unbreakable.. It's good to have an outlet of some kind, if you don't already.

    None if that is your fault, but your hard work will pay off for your daughter, even if you never actually see it. I'm no expert, but I'm pretty positive that your daughter definitely loves you and appreciates you and everything you do... She just may not know how/be able to consciously/purposely show it. But there are subconscious signs of that love and appreciation you may not be privy to. Either way, a time will come when she shows it, in some way, and you'll see how much she does love and appreciate you. You may even discover how to see it daily.
     
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    Thanx guys it means a lot hearing that from fellow SW7N members! \m/

    This site is the 1st time I've ever cleared my chest of this, this is my outlet. When @Luuke22 started this Thread I was taken by surprise. No other sites that I know of offer anything like this. So I told him I wanted in on it. I feel that by talking to others about their issues, in turn this just might help me with mine.I guess you could technically say my issue is not a real problem. But to me it is you know. \m/

    @Jake Wolfe My mom says she shows me she loves me in her own way by never wanting to be away from me, this may or may not be true. Now that u say that, I am gonna start looking out for subtle signs and see. You just might be right.... But even if she never tells or shows me that she loves me. I'm still gonna love her no matter what! \m/

    I'm no hero, I'm just a her Father \m/ \m/ My daughter to me is the real Hero in all of this!

    (chewie)
     
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    Have you ever just wanted to hug a post? Also, good luck to you and your daughter (wish I could say more, but unfortunately I'm more of a listener than a speaker).
     
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    Yes, and thank you \m/
    I know what you mean. I feel I'm a better listener to.
    This Thread is the 1st place I, myself have ever spoke about my personal life. We have a therapist who visits 3 times a week to help my daughter deal with her situation but I don't talk to her about how I feel. To me it's more important for her to try to reach my daughter. \m/ \m/
     
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    Wow,great thread.
    Thank you for the window into your lives.as a father myself I feel for you wookie,chin up mate.as a believer in destiny I think our souls to some extent choose our path before we are born,so remember always she chose you,the mighty wookiemonster so don't pack away the guitar to soon mate cos You'll never stopa rockin.
    And a message to you @Luuke22
    A selfless post is a Jedi post,well done,and don't forget to finish your Obi Wan story.
    @ChewbaccasPrivates, I think it was good advice you were given,seek help,I'm not overly familiar with American law but in Australia we have free counselling and a phone help line where you can call up and just let it all out anonymously maybe this exists there also?
    A message to all..the day we stop suffering from the human condition will be a sad day indeed
     
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    This thread is already a great success!
    I'm very proud to be a part of it.
     
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    i spend so much time here, so i will always lend an ear & listen :) when we are done talking star wars it is great talking a little about our lives, what is working & what is not, you get to know people better when they are troubled & you have to be serious. it also creates a friendlier community (& IMO cantina is the best community on the internet, maybe because im a star wars nut :D ) & i love ALL things star wars, so you will never end up in a endless debate about PT vs. OT or EU vs. CANON with me..... ;) :)

    @Luuke22 i know how to search for help in scandinavian countries (so you can put me on the list) & I understand: Danish, Norwegian & Swedish (my country) -if someone from scandinavia have trouble writing in english about problems...

    @WookieeMonster good decisions, taking responsibility, shows character & only makes you stronger & you sir seems to have a lot of character ;)

    PS. this is also a thread were you actaually read EVERY entry (not done reading all yet though) :D :rolleyes:
     
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    Added you to the list, @SKYWATER :)
     
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    Hey, how's everyone doing? I'd like to hear from ya'll if you feel like chiming in sometime. If not, don't mind me, I just need to blow off some steam.

    I'm getting frustrated very easily this week. Case in point, I just deleted a post I was writing, several paragraphs in length, that was very passive aggressive in nature and was indirectly aimed at a newer member. It wasn't even like this person was antagonizing me, I just got the urge to try and tear them down because of something they said; I don't like feeling that way and I didn't feel good about what I was writing, so I deleted it before I could post it, but it's not the first time something like that has happened to me this week. Some of it is events happening in my life and some of it is some of the trends I've been noticing here in the Cantina, but I'm just so full of angst and ready to lash out....I think I've done a pretty good job with calming myself, channeling some of that unfettered rage into intelligent conversation instead, but it's just so dang hard sometimes...

    I love the Cantina and I really like talking to all of you; I'm not some kind of rage-aholic (though a recent "which Marvel character are you" test did brand me as The Hulk ;) ), so I hope this all doesn't cast me in that light. I'm just...frustrated. And I guess I really needed to get that off my chest, because I'm already feeling quite a bit better. Guess that's what I made this thread for in the first place :).

    Anyway, I hope it doesn't happen but if I seem snippy at all in the rest of the Cantina, please PM me and tell me to check myself before I...well, you know the rest ;).

    I was serious about wanting to hear how everyone's doing, btw. Anyone else having a tough week, or got anything they want to share, good or bad?
     
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    Good job on having the wisdom and maturity to delete your text before posting! That can be hard to do.

    I can definitely get short with people at times too. I can be easily offended, at times, when people get personal about disagreements. I'm the kind of person that would rather discuss possibilities and hear new ideas, rather than tear down others for theirs, which seems to be a trend with people. Different ideas can, of course co-exist.

    As fae as the things that are bothering me at this point in my life... It's all complicated, compounded, and... Several long stories.

    I'll get it all typed and posted at some point, probably not tonight.
     
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    I'm doing well, actually! Thanks for asking.

    I myself have anger issues, which stems from frustration (just watch me play video games). It can actually be emotionally draining, and seems to be one of the things I got from my dad (he told my mom when they got married that his family was nuts, by the way). Of course, not nearly to the point of my former-marine sniper father, for which I am grateful.
     
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