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The Cantina Mental Health Thread

Discussion in 'Random Discussion' started by Luuke22, Jul 29, 2015.

  1. SKYWATER

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    you choose the LIGHT side instead of the dark side ;) it is always good to read through what you have written before posting, especially if one is angry, me myself always edit my self in realtime when writing even if it is very positive, if it doesn't feel right, i emediatly backspace & write something else (even postive things can be TO MUCH) :D :D it is very rare that i am angry & when i am i don't write to people on the internet, but of course frustration must come out so thank the force for this thread ;) much better to write about the frustration here :) good choice...

    I am having a very good week (although i am very tired & physical ill) for you who are having a bad week; HANG IN THERE ! & check this thread for support ;) :)
     
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    Yeah, my week would be fine if not for me being sick, lol. Not sure if it's just my allergies acting up, which they rarely do, or if I'm actually sick.. Body aches, throat is sore, nose is runny.. I only get sick two or three times a year, max. But I sure do hate it!
     
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    when sick it is nice to huddle up with a nice blanket & hot soup in bed with "the cantina" :) discussing SW will surely increase happiness, when feeling down ;) :D i think i also have a cold,..
     
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    For sure! I should be heading downhill now though. Think I'm "getting over it" now, which seems to be the longest part..
     
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    Being sick sucks. Last year I had a terrible fever when I was supposed to be babysitting my step-cousins (it was my 'Summer job') and my aunt couldn't take care of them because of work. It says something when I, who does not go to sleep very easily, slept like a baby for the whole day. Thank god that those kids had 1) lunch that they brought with, and 2) had Netflix to amuse them. I wouldn't have survived otherwise. On the bright side, if I ever have kids, I can tell them that "I worked when I had a terrible fever!", much like how my dad can say he "worked in the fields when I was only 12 years old" picking strawberries during the Summer (though that's because his mother made him file taxes for it. Again, he was 12).
     
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    Hi folks, I've never been on this thread before. Am not too good myself. I had a break from my family Thursday until Saturday morning. It was awful, my room stank of cigs, cig holes were all over the carpet, in the curtains and the bed covers. I opened the window and loads of midges flew in, it was awful. I have been diagnosed as autistic, I feel so angry about my old school for not doing anything for when I was younger. I hate them, they told me it was impossible because I was a girl and that I was just shy and lacked confidence. I feel so angry, am so sorry if I have upset people today on here, I just seem to be snapping at people. I don't mean to be like this am just edge all the time. I just want someone to give me a hug and tell me its okay but I don't have that anymore in my life. I miss my mother, its going to be 7 years in November, I have put so much weight on and I can't loose anything. I don't drink or smoke but am not healthy bunny, Its breaking me. I just keep getting absorbed in star wars to take my mind off things, I watch I read, I play games just to make myself feel comfy. I just feel am wallowing in self pitty all the time. I don't know what to do with myself. Am with the horses tomorrow, that makes me feel a bit better but am grown woman, I feel like a baby trying to recapture my youth. Am just in a bad place at the moment. Hope people will have patience with me when am like this, I don't mean to upset anyone if I snap :(
     
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    Of course we'll have patience for you. Don't think that you're bothering people just because you feel bad.

    What's going on with you is horrible, and I wish I could do more to help.
     
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    Thank you Sus xxxx
     
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    'Let go of your hate' :) Unfortunately, we're all imperfect, and sometimes make downright dumb decisions. Sometimes we're just ignorant and mean no harm. I think your school was probably just ignorant, and had no idea how to handle something they didn't yet understand at that time. We haven't always, sadly, had a society with a good awareness of mental disorders like ours. (Anxiety, Depression, Autism, Asperger's, AD[H]D, OCD, etc.)

    But we do now live in a world that tries a little harder to understand, and really does understand, much better than they used to. We have more support than we did even twenty or thirty years ago.

    My advice to you would be to accept who you are, and use it to... Be you! Don't worry about labels, or about whatever disorder you may deal with. We've all got something, but it's how we deal with it that makes us either pathetic (meaning, worthy of sympathy) or heroic (meaning, worthy of admiration, and inspiring to others). And we all have the power within us to become heroic! We just have to discover it, and learn how to take up that strength. It really is a very "Star Wars" idea! It's the Hero's Journey!

    I wish I could give you a real one, but we'll just have to settle for an e-hug, at least for now :)

    Don't worry, you're in the right place, if you're looking for patient, caring people. It seems to me that you're going in the right direction... You have things in your life that you love and enjoy. The trick is not forgetting or losing yourself in what you love, but learning (from what you love) how to be yourself in *all* areas of you life! Horses, book clubs, gaming communities, community and support groups... These are all great places to go to learn how to be yourself, and learn to love yourself.

    Being a grown woman doesn't mean you can't be a kid at heart.. I'm about to be 21, but you better believe I'm still a kid. People can give me weird looks all they want, but I choose never to conform to society's version of "adulthood". I will never forget how to laugh, have fun, or enjoy life. I choose to never become absorbed with money, work, despair, or boredom. Just appreciate the little things in life. Don't be afraid to keep being a kid! You can be a kid and an adult at the same time :) Not to mention, adult-kids are the funnest people to work, learn, and hang out with ;)
     
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    Aaaw thanks, am nearly crying reading that xxxxxx
     
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    Wow......I mean wow. I forget from time to time that the human spirit and soul still has compassion for its fellow human, and I am stunned to see this entire thread. @Luuke22...I commend you and those that follow you, as this is a serious subject. It's not SciFi, its not Fantasy....it's real life that in most cases, those afflicted are left to fight this demon on their own.

    I still REALLY don't know what to say about this, but for those here that may need you and benefit from your conversation, your ear, and potentially your advise....Thank you. I give you all my personal commendation.
     
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    I have" ADHD & never got helped in school, so i understand somewhat what you feel... But i got lucky & went on to work with things that suited me (technoDj & musicproducer & later theater) :) I know exactly what is not working for me in life & what i should not work with, for example; sitting in front of a computer all day is impossible for me, if i am not producing music (or spending a whole evening here at the "CANTINA") :D

    I was also very shy & probably lacked confidence in real life (I was very inward bound, but perfectly happy in my creative imaginary world) It was only the outgoing ADHD kids that got noticed, so i understand the frustration of school not giving the tools a different kid needs (i was mostly bored & spent my time drawing instead) that makes you feel very alone, when in fact a lot of people feel like this (regardless of diagnoses) depression gets everyone sometime.

    When it does it is important to speak to people, so why not with fellow Star Wars NUTS ! ;) :) :D all one need to feel (when a hug is not physically possible) is that you are not alone & to hear other peoples stories & how they got through it. .... -I work now with theater aimed at participants with "psychological disabilities" (i hate that word) & our aim & claim is that: everyone can act, even people that fell outside of society & we even claim that those kind of people are often more creative & "crazy" (in a good sense) ,but people have never listened to them & their wonderful "crazy" ideas, so theater is the perfect place for them . because you need to be a little nuts ! (or a lot) :D to work with theater... :) We have all kinds of people (adhd, asberger, autism, severe depression, social phobia/anxiety etc. ...) & all fell much better after a finished theater production/premiere & we write everything ourselves so it is nothing like any "normal" theater & we follow no rules, because different ideas just can't :p :eek: :rolleyes: & in my world there are no diagnoses, just very different people ;)

    I Hope this little story will give you some comfortation & "a new hope" ;) :D & HANG IN THERE! (there will soon be a forceful awakening) :)

    @Trevor the human spirit & compassion will always win in the end :) & "papa lucas" has raised us well with fundamental spiritual ideas & lines such as: "luminous being are we, not this crude matter" ;) & i think that is one of the biggest reason why we love STAR WARS !!!! (sebulba)
     
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    Hey guys I need your help.......

    Let me start by saying that I have always been a loner when it comes to my love of Star Wars. I didn't grow up with friends to talk to about it. This site is the first time I have ever enjoyed it with others \m/ \m/ and I know I am not alone when it comes to wanting to be apart of something awesome that involves Star Wars.

    I have a little dilemma. For sometime now I have been trying to get in on helping out with this site. SW7N has been a great passion of mine for quite sometime now. I did what was asked of me and redid it a few times. Did everything to enlist in the 1030th, been doing this for awhile since I spend many a night on here reporting each and every spammer I come across even started a twitter account a few weeks ago. Still for some reason I am not enlisted. I know the Mods all are busy at various times and I'm sure they have far more important things to do than to always remember me. And I know we all live in different time zones but it's always a miss for me and I guess it's just not gonna go in my favor, which gets frustrating for me. I feel I'm left hanging feeling so incomplete.

    It got to the point where I started "Like Bombing" anyone and everyone's profile posts just to make playing the (game) point up and the trophies part of this site more fun for myself. I "Like Bomb" more than I have been "Like Bombed" but that's not why I started doing it \m/ \m/ Now the Mods never said that they didn't approve. I was just told that the system wasn't designed for users to use like that. Still I keep "Like Bombing" I guess I may just have "Like Bombed" away any chance I had. But I'm not gonna stop cuz I think that when someone gets on to 100 alerts or so, it feels like x-mas and helps other members point up and so on and so forth. I'm not breaking any rules I am just making it all fun.

    Recently I found out some old members that I used to enjoy chatting with on here are running another site. They asked me to help them out with their site \m/ the problem is that site is getting negative attention from Disney and Lucasfilm which I'm not sure I want to be involved with you know. If I help them it could also be the end of my membership here I don't know But at least with that site I could contribute more than just being a member. Now my 1st passion is for my daughter my 2nd Star Wars and my 3rd is for this site SW7N. But I'm starting to feel that the Dark side is growing more and more stronger inside me over this.

    I feel exactly like Luke did when he was stuck on Tattooine dealing with moisture vaporators. Like my situation is hopeless \m/ \m/

    Anyone got any advice for me? I don't know what to do?

    May the Force be with you all.......always!!! !!! !!!
     
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    I think it's as simple as this: which community do you feel would be better to you? Which seems more like a potential home for your fandom? Choose that community :)
     
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    That's easy... SW7N \m/ \m/
    But the whole feeling of getting the run around is crushing my spirit. That is what makes this hard cuz this site has been my home.
     
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    Yeah, feeling ignored can be difficult.. For obvious reasons.

    As far as what to do about it, I'm not sure. My best advice is: Be persistent, but also be content and proud of yourself as a leader regardless of whether or not you have a title.. Titles do not make leaders.
     
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    True, but I lead at nothing. But I have even stated that I would be more than willing to help "uncredited" which I still do, I report spammers, I retweet everything SW7N and the Cantina Forum....... I guess my role here will never be greater than that. \m/ \m/
     
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    @WookieeMonster I barely know you, but already I see that you're a voice of respect, reason and positivity. I've seen how people talk to you amd respect you.. You have charisma, and are likable. Those are huge leadership qualities. You don't need anybody to "officially" recognize you as one in order for you to be one. We can lead without a command.. Sometimes we lead in friendship, or wisdom, or reason, or respect, or honor, or advice.

    I said I'd share my story, eventually. Now is as good a time as any, I suppose. It may or may not be completely relevant to where you're at, but I hope you get something from it :)

    First off, I'm a Christian. It's the number one most important part of my identity. And while I'm sure religion, like politics, is probably a touchy subject here, I think making that known as a fact, and not stating any "religious" or spiritual opinions on the matter, is probably appropriate to the openness of this thread. Until two years ago, I was not very active in church. I recently had what you could call a spiritual awakening, when I realized a lot of very life-changing things about myself and my spirituality. Again, for the sake of being relevant and identifiable with what I hope is a story that will mean something to somebody, I will avoid particulars of my beliefs, which, while not controversial, are personal, and some would consider it rude to discuss.

    Moving on, I became involved in, as a young adult, the youth group at my church. After being the only adult there for a few months (I went with my girlfriend at the time, who was a year younger than I), I was quickly recognized as having leadership potential by the youth pastor, who proceeded to invited to be a youth leader there. Specifically, the 8th grade boys small groupd leader.

    This time I spent as a leader taught me a lot, and I got a lot of good time with my boys, as well as some of the boys from the high school part of the youth group, who trusted me and came to me privately for advice, on things ranging from decision-making in relationships, to personal struggles with habits or addictions. I got to help some people, and this is what I always wanted to do.

    But, unfortunately, during my time there, the youth pastor started to change a lot, in his personality and attitude. He started off as someone I would call a brother, someone who was laid-back, well-centered, and just interested in helping others and, as we say at our church is our goal, "loving people to life change". But over time, he really began to change into someone preached these things more than he practiced them. He started to become more interested in the denomination's doctrines (as in, the greater "Methodist"/"Baptist"/etc.) than actual Christian doctrine. You could say he went from something more basic and general, i.e. "loving people to life change", to something much more narrow and interpreted.

    This change in attitude led to a point where he started to quote himself in a lot of his Wednesday night messages, and he started saying things that I think he, at one time, would have thought were a little legalistic. He stopped trusting his leaders (including me) as spirit- or conscience-led people who were made to be leaders, and eventually typed up a paper.

    This paper asked the leaders different questions that were, frankly, neither his business, nor relevant to what we were doing as leaders with the kids. Then he quoted himself as saying "you share my stage, you need to share my convictions". Then he listed several heavily interpretation-based views, which, if we disagreed with any of them, we could not be leaders, as we couldn't sign the paper. There were no Bible verse citations, and he mentioned himself more than he mentioned God.. For me, as a Christian who believes in a relationship with my Creator, and does not believe in "Religion", this is absolutely wrong. Though not every leader who disagreed with this paper took a stand against it, we did lose one or two other leaders aside from myself, who, while they did great things for the kids, teaching them love, respect, how to make good choices and value themselves, and how to put others above themselves, they simply were not allowed to be leaders because they did not 100% agree with the youth pastor's doctrine.

    Ultimately, I had to take a stand, as my spirit felt led to. This was not his stage, it was God's stage. The convictions I need to share are not his convictions, but God's convictions.

    I apologize if the subject matter is.. Offensive or distasteful to any of my non-religious or non-Christian friends here in the Cantina, but ultimately, what I hope to drive home is this:

    Above all, it is God Who has made me a leader. Not man. If you are a leader, no one can strip that from you. You will always be a leader, no matter who says otherwise.

    I am a leader, because that title has been bestowed on me by Someone greater than man.

    And you are too.
     
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    Wow....... I don't know just how to respond to that \m/

    I take no offence to any of what you said or how you said it. You did open my eyes to the fact that everyone here does treat me with respect. And despite what does or what doesn't happen to or for me on here it is I who need to rise above it ALL and just keep being me \m/ \m/

    And you're right, I should not let the negativity take over. It's not me.

    With that being said I can't in good conscience help the other site. This is where I have all my fun. This is where I live to share my love for Star Wars \m/ this is the community that makes me feel.... at home!

    Thank you @Jake Wolfe for sharing your story it is vary inspirational \m/ \m/
     
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    I'm really glad I could help! :D
     
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