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The Cantina Mental Health Thread

Discussion in 'Random Discussion' started by Luuke22, Jul 29, 2015.

  1. DarthOfInformation

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    I don't have anything specific to say, but I just want to note that this thread is cool and I'm glad it exists.

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  2. Stormagadon

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    Okay, here's the latest!

    I was right about some of those smaller details, but there was some misinformation going on for the big stuff. Ultimately, I'm the first choice for this position in the directors opinion, and is trying to work out details with this gal and her husband for other stuff they can do.
    There's a bit more going, but I'm not at liberty to talk about it, but once again, thank you for your advice, prayers, and concerns!
    God bless!
     
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  3. p03

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    Hiya, just wanted to see how you guys were? Had an awful day today and I should be happy. My new resistance Rey model came today I've convinced myself now the next time we see her she will be sith. Anyways I'm having an awful time with things. I have had mental health issues since I was 14 am 32 now. I've lost my nurse, doctor, counselor and support worker since November. Am just feeling really useless and all alone. I lost my partner we broke up and I miss her like mad. Am just so depressed at the moment, you know when am not good I tend to swear a lot, I just don't know what to do and I have also learned that my uncle has cancer. I have nobody to speak too, my Dad is deaf and my sisters have there own lives to live. I keep getting paranoid that everybody hates me, I hope you folks don't think am awful.

    So with that, hope you are all better than how I am feeling now, hugs to you all. You all mean a great deal to me, your good people with a few exceptions. We have a great site here both posters and mods

    p03
    xxxxx
     
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  4. Jake Wolfe

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    Remember, you're not alone in your hardships. We may be miles away, but we all have our Humanity in common. And with that Humanity, there is hardship, and pain. After all, we're not all here because we have perfect lives, and tons of time (;

    Many of us are here because our love of Star Wars is an escape and source of hope and inspirstion in our hard lives! We're all here in this thread because we all empathize with each other.

    We're here to support you.

    My point is, none of us think you a bad person (not any more than the rest of us imperfect beings) and, as the great quote goes, "This too shall pass." So stay strong. Seek true joy and happines, and try not to let depression or anxiety lead you to be complacent, or submissive to it's oppression. You can beat it all!

    "The road goes ever on..."
     
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    Thanks for sharing,

    That's some unfortunate series of circumstances to be landed with at the same time!

    Don't forget you're not alone in the feelings you're describing so don't be too hard on yourself. In times of hardship we tend to give way too much legitimacy to negative thoughts such as perceived uselessness and self-consciousness.

    If you do happen to find yourself with no one immediate to unload on - unload here! These super lows are part of our human estate of grief and joy - we might as well use these moments as a common ground to come together.

    Kia kaha and Aroha nui to you.
     
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  7. bandcrew

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    haven't been around for a while,great to see members still supporting,it's what always keeps me coming back.I remember when @Luuke22 started this thread,I hope he's still around here checking in every now and then,I'm sure he's proud of all the members contributing.I miss reading @wookiemonster's messages of hope,I wish all the best for you wookie,and I hope you still crank it up to 11 now and then.
     
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  8. Luuke22

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    Hey everyone, how's life?

    When I started this thread, I meant it as a safe that we, as fellow Star Wars fans, could go to support one another when things went wrong and times got tough. I'm proud to say that it's been a wild success, mostly thanks to you folks. I realize this place hasn't been as active as it once was, but it's still alive and that's all I could have hoped for. Thank you.

    I'm not to proud to admit when I make a wrong decision, and I indeed made one many moths ago that meant I had to leave the site for a while. I'm not entirely comfortable talking about it, but suffice to say that I thought it was in my best mental health interest to distance myself from this place; to that end, I logged out one day and stayed that way. Well I'm hear to say I was wrong and I hope you all can understand. I'm going to try and take a more passive role around here; maybe encouraging discussion instead of worrying about prestige will be better suited to my tastes. I'm disappointed that I missed all the hullabaloo for TFA, but I'm excited to get back to talking Star Wars with everyone!

    Anywho, I just wanted to say hello and that I'll be around again. If anyone wants to talk, hit me up here or in a PM. Oh! And I haven't been completely gone; I post as "Onimi666" in the comments on the main blog. I try not to be too much of a jerk over there ;).
     
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  9. Old Biff from the Future

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    Welcome back
    --- Double Post Merged, Mar 8, 2016, Original Post Date: Mar 8, 2016 ---
    My life is in shambles and I am afraid of losing job , family and my mind. So, I look forward to being a part of this thread. I need a good shrink thread right now, lol
    --- Double Post Merged, Mar 8, 2016 ---
    Glad to know you buddy
     
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  10. AstromechRecords

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    Good thing we're here for each other :) .
     
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  11. Luuke22

    Luuke22 1030th Lieutenant (Jr Mod)

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    Sorry to hear all that man; I can sympathize, my life's in a pretty dark place right now too. If ya ever wanna talk, feel free to PM me. Otherwise, I too look forward to getting this thread up and going again. And thanks for the welcome back!

    Hear, hear!
     
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  12. Jake Wolfe

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    In the face of great adversity, persevering and maintaining our mental and emotional strength goes far to get us through. Life isn't over at the end of a job, or even a career, or a friendship, or even a family, if it comes to that.

    And for your mental and emotional strength, you have friends here who can empathize. And sometimes, that's all we need to keep our strength up: someone to hear us, and know what we're up against in life.
     
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    Sometimes I find it just helps to browse the funny meme threads untill a smile cracks onto your face like a rey of sunlight cuts through the dispersing storm clouds.
     
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    "A rey of sunlight" I saw what you did there :);):D
     
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  15. Luuke22

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    Hey @Jake Wolfe , sorry to drag this back up after months of it being settled, but I just wanted to mention it because you touched on one of the reasons I left this place for a while.

    Confession time: I often worry far more about my prestige than I should. Maybe it's because I'm in such a rut in life after being on top of my game for years, but that's a whole other matter to discuss. The last few weeks that I was really active around here, I started getting really obsessed with ratings, gaining medals, and being recognized for my contributions. It got so bad that I was picking fights with members who may have given me a dislike or two, and I started abusing the ratings in retaliation. Mind you, this was while I was trying to forge friendships with some of you; I felt like this was OUR club, and people who didn't get that (i.e.- new members) should have to, idk, pay tribute or something until they belonged. In summation, I felt far too much pride, and, as it always does, soon came the fall. I really don't remember what did it, but something snapped in me and I had to just back away from everything; instead of encouraging discussion and being there for my friends, I found myself belittling other opinions and unofficially designating members as "friend" or "foe." It just wasn't working for me; once I realized what was going on, I still couldn't stop. So, I dropped everything, went back to lurker status, and started getting my SW fix elsewhere; a little time away would do me some good.

    The thing is, this site had become quite a large part of my life; I went from spending hours at a time here to merely glimpsing what was going on through the main blog comments. A vacancy like that demands to be filled, and fill it I did (that really isn't meant to sound so dirty; I mean with like other Internet things, lol). Time went on, TFA came out, and it became more and more of a daunting task just to log-in. It was so much easier to just stay away than to try and jump back in. I still needed a SW fix though, and after months of posting in sub-par communities, I felt it was finally time to come back. So here I am.

    Some of you may be wondering why I'm even posting this; if my problem is my ego, why post such an ego-centric diatribe? Well, you're not the only one asking...but I feel like I owe an explanation to anyone who might have cared or wondered where I went. I wish I had a better story, but, for better or worse, the truth is I got burnt out.

    All things must come to an end, though, and that includes self-imposed exile. Like I said before, I'll be around if anyone wants to talk; I'll be posting in the main forums as soon as I reorient myself within the current discussions; and I'll be doing my best to not only stay humble but to manage my time around here for the better. Thanks for listening, and now back to your regularly scheduled programming.
     
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    I really respect your honesty and willingness to self-reflect. That takes a lot of strength, and I'm sure your account of your experiences will resonate and empower others to more clearly examine their own motivations and behavior. It's ok to have an ego. We're all human, and we all face the challange of managing that ego. Self awareness and personal growth usually only comes through pain and reflection. It's how we gain wisdom and insight. Often the areas that make us most uncomfortable are the the areas we need to examine the most.

    People often tend to want to exclude others and put them down when they feel as though the world is spiralling out of their control, and they feel deeply insecure about themselves and their abilty to handle that. Perhaps that's why the lesson that is so pervasive throughout SW, that of letting go of your feelings, being selfless and keeping the faith in the face of fear draws so many fans in. Because we struggle to do this in our own lives.

    Sometimes a little distance can help one gain the perspective to see things more clearly.

    The universe has a tendancy to throw bricks, and if you still don't 'get it', it will usually send along a brick wall to make sure you do 'get it'. After hitting enough brick walls, one learns to pay attention to the bricks.

    You seem like an interesting person who has thrown off the shackles of self-delusion and become a better person. Bravo for you! I look forward to getting to know you better and foruming with you in the future.

    Thanks for sharing your story.
     
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  17. Luuke22

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    Thanks, @Empire Jo , for the advice and for understanding. Serious self-reflection is often difficult and the lessons hard to truly learn, but I think running away like I did ultimately did more harm than good. Too often, I avoid my problems and too rarely do I take the opportunity to correct that; it's nice to come back to such an inviting community, to be able to pick up where I left off and press on.
     
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    Hello. I am somewhat new here. I like the people I work with but I hate my job. The company sucks cause of all the stupid unnecessarily cut backs resulting in lack of customer service. I wish I could leave, but I can't. got some finances stuff I gotta work out.
     
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    Hey! Sorry it took so long to get back to you, I've only been on sporadically this week, but welcome to the thread and thanks for posting!

    I can sympathize with what you're going through; I've only had one job so far that I didn't completely hate, but it was part-time and didn't pay enough. One company I worked for though was the worst; I loved the people in my department (customer service), but everyone else just sucked. I hated what the company sold too, and that led to me hating the customer base that I was serving. It was just not a good situation....I eventually left (I was only a temp, but I had been there for over a year), and I hear it got way worse in my absence: everyone else in my former department quit, the office was restructured, and suckiness reigned supreme.

    I tell you all this because sometimes it helps to know that others are going through, or have gone through, similar problems. If I can offer some advice: do your job for as long as you have to, but make a plan to get out and do so as soon as you can afford to; life's too short to spend it in a job you hate. Meanwhile, just try to remember that your life isn't defined by your job and that you always have some friendly people to come chat with when things get dark. Plus, you're a Star Wars fan, so that makes you automatically awesome at life (yoda).
     
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    I'm happy there is a thread like this. I mostly lurk but I need to vent. Today I found out on Facebook that a few of my "friends" went on a trip that they said that they'd invite me. Probably the reason I wasn't invited this year was that I've been in a depressive slump and I'd probably be a wet blanket to thier fun. Doesn't matter to me. In a few months I'll be moving away from this town and to a larger city. Sadly I don't know many people there but at least I'll have a job once I graduate college. People have been trying to talk me out of moving but I know I have a better chance there than in my hometown.
     
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