The Cantina Mental Health Thread

Hope everybody's doing well

I just need to vent a bit.

One of the few things that other people can upset me with is when they take my ideas or views and act like I'm an idiot for them. And the absolute worst is when someone puts words in my mouth. Maybe it's just because I hate the act of lying in general, and see putting words in others' mouths as one of the worst kinds of lying, but seriously?

Can we just be honest, and gracious, and give constructive criticisms and share helpful ideas with each other, rather than be rude or act like people we disagree with are idiots? Especially when that happens here, over something meant to be fun, and transcendant, and not super serious or dire. We shouldn't be mean to each other here. We should be having fun and encouraging each other!

Some users take this whole thing way too seriously. Ideas about Star Wars or its characters can apparently cause offense? We need to get over ourselves. I don't like your idea, so I'll misportray and construe it as being really stupid? So childish. I'm going to give you a negative rating for what you said just because I disagree? Ridiculous. I have no problem with appropriate ratings, including neutral ratings like "disagree" and "clouded", but substituting those for negative ratings when the post violates no rules?

I haven't experienced that one lately, as far as I know (I don't check my ratings received), but putting words in each other's mouths and treating people like they're idiots happens too often. At least in my life. This place is meant as an escape from the negativity of the real world. A place to rest and enjoy the little things, like films. So let's be nice to each other, and be respectful, and gracious, alright? Not that I'm talking to any of you, you've all been great!

 

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And now it's my turn to answer your story with one of my own my friend.
Don't feel bad that you're 23 and your friends are years ahead of you. When I graduated from high school, I quickly went to study to become a nurse. This wasn't because I liked it but because it was the cheapest thing I could get since my family didn't help me much and my mom had stolen the money I had in the bank which I was saving to buy a car. My stepfather has never loved me much and he has always seen me as a freak just because I liked to buy toys and I didn't like to party or drink or do drugs like many people do. I was always considered a lazy loser by him and no matter what I did, for my parents I was always a failure. When I was in school they would always say that I would always quit. I did my best and never flunked and when I finished high school I quickly went to study. I thought that would make mt parents proud but they didn't care and all they did was say that I would quit nurse school. I studied hard and did great in the practice and had good grades but once I finished studding and started to try to find work, my parents kicked me out of the house. That broke my heart because to this very day I have never cursed at my parents, I've never done drugs, smoked, gotten drunk or ever bought a problem to my parents. I had to go live with a friend and I had to grab the first job that I could find in order to help him out and pay for my things. From there I began to jump from one job to the next to the point that I never had the chance to work as a nurse. That continued until I finally landed a stable job at a bowling alley. It was there that I met my girlfriend who is now my wife. One of my sisters had an old house and she had told me to live there and that when things got better I could slowly pay her for the house since she has a huge house and didn't need that one. My wife who was my girlfriend at that time was working as a secretary in an office. We were happy to be together and we started to make plans to get married. Guess what? The bowling alley where I had been working for years went bankrupt followed by my sister selling the house I was living in without even me knowing it! To make matters worst, apart from having to live with another of my sisters at the time, the office where my future wife worked at went bankrupt too! It was really hard for us and it was a big sacrifice to finally be able to get married all the while we had to see all our friends and everyone around us pass us by. We love each other greatly and we thank the Lord for being there to help us but it has not been an easy journey. I'm 41 now my friend and my wife is 40 and though we were able to build a tiny one roomed house for ourselves in the back of my mother's house, we are still struggling to have a place of our own and we really wish to have kids but we need a bigger house because we don't even have room for a little dog much less a kid. All the people we once called friends have had incredible luck in their lives ranging from their parents giving them jobs to giving them cars, houses and economic help. They all have kids and many of them take these things for granted and they would look down on us like if we were losers even though we had no fault at the nasty events that have happened to us. We are very happy with what little we got and we never loose faith that God will give us a brighter tomorrow. We yearn for the day when we will finally have a place of our own to call home and we can't wait to have our babies so that we can share our joy and love with them. You are still very young my friend and I tell you not to feel down because others have done what you haven't been able to do. Your time will come and your live is precious so don't let anyone ever make you feel like you're wasting time being alive.

 

Hey guys, I'm new to the forum and this is one of the first threads I stumbled upon. It hit really close to home. A good friend of mine and fellow fan is really sick. It's a terrible situation that leaves you feeling hopeless. A few others and myself started a page to try and help his family. Lately, it's been the only good news about this whole situation. If any of you guys could help spread the word about it, that would be amazing! If you can't it's completely understandable. Thank you for listening.

https://www.gofundme.com/nevertellmetheoddshans-solo

 

Hey guys,

Just an update on this post. Unfortunately, my friend lost his battle with cancer yesterday and has passed away. His family will now be living on one income and will have an unbelievable amount of medical bills. If you can, please share on your social media accounts so we can try to help out this wonderful family. Thank you so much!